Every year, when the Oscars roll around, I look at the list of nominated movies and mentally count how many I’ve seen. Unfortunately, the number is always pretty low. Out of this year’s nine nominated movies for “Best Picture,” I saw three. It’s a darn shame.
When I was preparing for the ten weeks of disability I’d need after my mastectomy and TRAM flap reconstruction surgery, I tried to focus on the opportunity of forced inactivity. With nowhere to go and no ability to work, what would I do with all of that time? Watching movies sprung to mind immediately.
I prepared by setting up my Netflix queue with lots of movies I wanted to see and upped my subscription to two movies at a time to keep them coming. It was a special thrill to realize I could watch whatever I wanted. Girly movie? No problem, this was my private showing so I didn’t have to negotiate with my husband about what “we” wanted to see. For someone who couldn’t stand up straight and was supposed to be resting, it encouraged me to relax and enjoy the downtime.
Setting up a comfortable space to watch my movies was also important. I made sure I got yet another tutorial from my teenagers on how to work the DVD player. Our sectional sofa made it easy to sit with my feet up. On the sofa, I made sure to have warm throws and extra pillows in place for comfort.
Relaxing and watching those movies was a gift I gave myself during those difficult weeks of healing. It strikes me that I shouldn’t have to wait for a surgery to do again.
Last December, I posted my “Best Christmas Movies Collection.” After three prior difficult holiday seasons, I was ready to relax and enjoy the magic of movies. Watching the Oscars last Sunday encouraged me to get back into the habit. I’ll be checking out Amazon’s “Oscar Central” site for all of the movies I missed and doing my best to catch up. (Amazon associates site.)
The thing I struggle with the most on a daily basis is knowing when to stop and relax. Using my nest as a workspace doesn’t help because boundaries become fuzzy at best. That’s why it’s important to build cues into the nest that encourage you to take advantage of downtime. For me, the memory of sitting all by myself on a Tuesday morning and watching a great movie reminds me that “life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Ferris Bueller
Did you miss seeing any great movies this year? If so, order a movie, pull up a chair and give in to the journey. You’ll be glad you did.
Survival > Existence,