Two Valentine’s Days ago I wrote a blog post about the “healing comfort of love” as expressed by “the little things” we do for each other.
That’s not to say I wouldn’t appreciate being swept off my feet with a surprise flight to Paris as much as the next girl. But who are we kidding? Crazy expensive, over-the-top romantic gestures are rare. When it comes to maintaining a 25-year marriage, it’s the little things (like Saturday morning tea and Sunday “gravy”) that keep us connected day after day, week after week.
The same can be said for self-care. While a week-long stay at a spa/resort would be heavenly, it’s the daily, little things that keep the well from running dry.
Of course, it’s easy to prioritize everything else above self-care. I’ve yet to write a to-do list that includes self-care. That’s because I tend to see work as the first priority of my day, with everything else coming in a distant second.
A month ago, I suddenly blurted out that I needed more fun and less all work/no play weekends. Two days later my friend asked me if I wanted to go with her into New York City the following Friday night to hear Kris Carr and Gabrielle Bernstein speak.
The following Friday evening I had an unexpected dinner with my friend and her husband, who I hadn’t seen in many years. Last Friday evening, after a day that went in a completely different direction than originally planned, I ended up having another unexpected visit – this time with my mother.
I didn’t realize what was happening until after my dinner with my friend and her husband. When I realized I had clearly stated what I needed, only to get it a few days later, I was floored. And then I remembered.
I thought it was a bit woo-woo, but I tried and asked for something irrelevant. It didn’t work. But it sure worked this time.
The morale of my story is simple: Stop burying your needs under obligations to work and others. Pay attention to yourself and state clearly what you need. Make the little things you need a priority and abundance will be yours.
Don’t forget to be your own Valentine today and every day!
Survival > Existence,