Getting a cancer diagnosis pulls the rug out from under your life. It's a struggle to give up expectations and learn to accept the unknown.
Letting Go of Certainty
Tag: new normal
How to Express Your Cancer Anger, Even if Something Gets Broken
Question: How many cancer patients does it take to change a light bulb? Answer: A few months after my April 15, 2009, mastectomy and TRAM flap reconstruction, I changed a light bulb. The light fixture had a cover which I removed to get to the bulb. Everything went well until I tried to reattach the [...]
3 Things You Need to Make Your “New Normal” Just Plain Normal
How would you react if your husband presented you with an individual volume of New Jersey Superior Court Reports as a present? I bet you'd be as stunned as I was. To be fair, my husband and I are attorneys (I'm retired), but I still had absolutely no idea why he thought I'd be excited [...]
Mindful Monday – Expect the Unexpected
If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans. Woody Allen As cancer survivors, we know that plans get interrupted - big time. Whatever we were doing when we heard the words, "You have cancer," immediately gets put on the back burner and our lives shoot off in an entirely different direction. There [...]
What’s the Real Story Behind Your Cancer Scars?
A really strong woman accepts the war she went through and is ennobled by her scars. Carly Simon Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is made flesh. Leonard Cohen It's a shallow life that doesn't give a person a few scars. [...]
Army of Women Wednesday – How Andrea Mitchell Reminded Me That We Are All At Risk
Today I have to talk about the firestorm ignited by Andrea Mitchell, who announced that she is “now among the 1 in 8 women in this country -- incredibly 1 in 8 -- who have had breast cancer." She went on to say that, "For you women out there and for the men who love [...]
Where We Go Now 