The Survivor’s Nest – What Makes a House a Home?


Yes, your home is your castle, but it is also your identity and your possibility to be open to others. David Soul

David Soul is the guy who played Hutch in the TV series “Starsky and Hutch” and sang the one-hit wonder “Don’t Give Up on Us.” But, the man has a point. If we look at our homes as a canvas upon which to paint our personalities, it should be clear to anyone who visits who we are.

If you walked into this house, what would it tell you about the inhabitants:

1.  They probably don’t have children or animals, given the use of white upholstered furniture.

2.  They really hate clutter, to the point that they own nothing.

Now, look at this room and tell me what you learn from it about the people who live there:

1.  She collects vintage pieces, such as the bull’s eye mirror, Chinese urns, candlesticks and old books. If you ask, she’ll tell you that many pieces were picked up at garage sales and flea markets.

2.  She loves decorative plates (especially vintage souvenir plates from across the US) and displays them proudly.

3.  The wooden box, used now for firewood but originally meant to hold Champagne, came out of her mother’s garage. No one has any idea how it got there, but that’s part of its charm.

4.  She likes warm colors, textured fabrics and intimate nooks for reading, hanging out and relaxing.

5. They have children, as you can tell from the handmade Valentine’s hearts perched on the mantel.

6.  The pictures of her mother and her when she was a baby, and her husband with his mother as a toddler, are treasured family photos.

Remember, we only invite people into our home who we want to be there. That makes it sacred ground. Take the time to look around and ask yourself what your home is revealing about you. Is your home telling the story you want to tell? Are you being open to others and truly celebrating you in your space?

If not, it’s not a hard thing to do. Collect what you love and display it proudly. In the iconic words of designer William Morris, “Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” All you have to do is choose to live with what you believe to be beautiful. How you express that is entirely up to you.

123RF Stock Photos and Emmi Interiors, LLC

Survival > Existence,



Beth L. Gainer's picture

A Very Important Posting

Hi Debbie,

This is such an excellent posting on a very important topic. It takes courage to discuss life and death issues, and you certainly have the courage. Having had cancer does help one grapple a bit more with the idea of death. Unfortunately, this woman’s family members are not being supportive, but it’s because they are afraid of death and probably terrified of losing her. Great posting!

Debbie's picture

Thank You, Beth

Hi Beth

Thank you and thanks for commenting on Tuesday’s post, Death and Cancer Loneliness. I was overwhelmed by this woman’s courage in facing her own fears and those of her family. When I was sick, and even today, I always get more emotional over cancer’s effect on my children and husband than I do about how it has affected me. To see her grapple with those issues was heartbreaking.

Survival > Existence,


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